How to Beat Loneliness

Only 5% of the stuff in our universe is made up of normal matter, but that is where most of us put 100% of our focus and attention. This creates an illusion of separateness where we believe we are alone and that when our material body dies, that’s the end. We even call this stuff “matter” because we believe it is all that matters. But, the other 95% of stuff in our universe is made up of energies and a mysterious dark matter, which actually govern our universe, our bodies, our experiences and our lives. This non-material universe can also be called the spiritual universe.

As we tap into this spiritual dimension, we start to see how all things are connected, we see relationships, we feel energies, we sense intuition, and we discover the true nature of our mind. Todd Perelmuter takes us on a spiritual journey, from Aloneness to Oneness, where borders and barriers disappear, and open hearts and open minds take hold. It takes us to a place where anger, greed, hatred and fear cease to be, and only love, joy, peace and gratitude remain.

What We Can Learn From Loneliness

The root cause of loneliness and boredom are the same conditioned mental phenomena. They are caused by comparing this moment to some other moment. Once the comparison starts, we get lost in negative thinking. We only truly feel bored when our mind screams, “I’m bored!” We only feel lonely when we think, “I wish I wasn’t alone.” Once we recognize the nature of loneliness, we can appreciate companionship without neediness. We can enjoy friends and family, but we can also find joy in aloneness.

Once we understand boredom, we can embrace the stillness. We can find peace in the quiet. We simply have to be, and to let go of any desire for things to be different. This doesn’t mean that we don’t make exciting plans or hang out with friends. It just means that between the plans and the activity, we are at peace and we are joyful.

Life is a beautiful tapestry of experiences, transitions and transformations. Getting old is one of those beautiful experiences that if we’re lucky, we will get to experience. But perhaps more so than any other transition in our lives, the uncertainty of getting old can bring up feelings of fear and anxiety.

So how do we deal with our fear and anxiety in a healthy way. How can we reframe old age and loneliness so that it becomes just another change of form in the content of our experience?

And most importantly, how can we embrace what we have while building the future of our dreams? This video explains just how.

In this video on Mindful Social Media Use, I talk about the human soul’s need for connection. Close bonds are as vital as air and water, and yet we are being choked off from the healing power of connection by our own digital communication systems.

Social media is an incredibly powerful tool. In terms of affecting our daily lives, it’s been more powerful than splitting the atom. And like splitting the atom, social media can either energize us and create value in our lives. Or, it can destroy us.

In this YouTube video, I talk about how social media has made us miserable, made us always compare ourselves to others, how it hijacked our mind, and how we can take our minds back.

 We humans need connection because we are a deeply interconnected species in an interconnected universe. We depend on one another. We need it like we need fresh air and sunshine. Unfortunately, we are living in an ever-increasingly isolated society. Day-by-day we become more alone and disconnected, and this is not natural for humans.

However, there are things we can do when we are deprived of physical touch. There are ways to diminish the suffering that our lack of connection causes. And we can tap into that inner joy and peace we all have inside of us that is not dependent on any external circumstance or experience.

In this video, I explore ways we can diminish this feeling of loneliness.

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Helpful Books

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Finding Your True Self

When we don't know ourselves, we become lost. Our lives become directionless, we seek happiness but never find it to last for very long, and we become enslaved by pleasure as the only escape for our suffering. This book contains the tools to become the master of our own mind.

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To everyone who has ever felt the sting of suffering. To everyone whose flickering flame of hope still dances in the wind. To everyone whose flame has gone dark, for every candle can be relit. My book, The Way Out of Suffering, is dedicated to all of you. May we all become a beacon of light to the world.

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