How Can I Embrace Present Moment If It’s Bad?

Q: Dear Todd, what if your “present” or “now moment” is you getting violently abused? Do you still enthusiastically embrace The Present?TODD ANSWERS: I think of the true masters of martial art. If they ever get into a dangerous situation that they can't get out of, they still don't panic and they stay calm and present. This is how we both minimize the suffering and keep our heads about us…

Path to Peace Feel Confident Being Seen, Heard, and Taking Up Space

All of us to some degree have a fear of being seen, truly seen. We put up walls, we build barriers, and we project an outward appearance that we think will be the most universally accepted. But this artificial persona we create actually causes us great stress and insecurity. We constantly fear we'll be found out, we'll feel like imposters, and our needy insecurity will make us doubt ourselves. In…

Still Have Resentment Towards My Ex. What to Do?

I understand how hard it can be when people don't treat us the way we would treat others. It is disappointing, disheartening, and discouraging. People are messy and relationships can be very complicated, but we enter into them because of the immense meaning and purpose they bring. To hold onto anger and resentment is to give up on people everywhere. It's a battlefield out there, but we only have 3…

How to Feel One With Everything

It is not easy to undo a lifetime of seeing the world in a specific way. The conscious mind can much more easily grasp onto a concept than it is for the heart to feel it on a deep level. In fact, in this instance, it appears like the mind is trying to think its way into the heart, but it doesn't really happen that way. The Union of the…

Path to Peace When We’re Not Feeling Good Enough

Everyone will have failures in life. The more success we have, the more times we'll have failed. That's the nature of learning, growth and success. We will all have things that we feel inadequate about. Michael Jordan might be a great basketball player, but his Mandarin might be atrocious. The reason we feel inadequate is not because we're imperfect, it's because we are comparing our unique selves to other people's…

Want to Forget My Painful Past. How Long Will It Take?

While some people block out troubling memories, others live with painful memories their whole lives. But it's not about whether we forget or remember, it's about whether we have healed from our past. A painful past only stays painful if we haven't healed. But over time, with patience and self-love, with reflection and introspection, we can heal from anything. The problem is, painful memories don't just stay in our head.…

How to Maintain Calm in the Time of Challenges

Our Stories Are Different, But We Are the Same Though everyone's story is different, we will all face challenges and difficulties. Some things will require urgent and decisive action, and others will call for patience and calm. No matter our story, the best thing we can do is to practice being present and centered through the hard times and the good times. When we spend some time centering ourselves every…

What Makes You the Best Version of Yourself

Who you are is who you’ve chosen to be. Who you will be depends on the choice you make now.You are not your genes or the luck of your circumstances.You are not your surroundings or your influences.You are not what you eat or what you do.You are what you choose.Whether it's a conscious choice or an unconscious one is up to you. You are a collection of your choices. What…

How Do I Know I Need Meditation?

“The greatest relationship we’ll ever have is with ourselves, yet so many people don’t take the time to know what makes them truly happy.” – Todd PerelmuterWelcome to the first step on the path to peace. Before you can heal thyself, you must know thyself. Once you finish this short quiz, you’ll be able to achieve the following:Know yourself better.Know where you are.Discover where you want to be.Understand how to…

Path to Peace How to Live Authentically in a Fake World

To live authentically, we have to know ourselves. To know ourselves, we have to spend a little time tuning out the influencers and tuning into our heart's intentions, values and instincts. This is how we go beyond the mind's thoughts and into our true calling in life. We are being influenced everywhere we look, from the advertisements we see to the social media we consume. In today's podcast, I share…