The World Can Wait a Second

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, Does every little inconvenience, unexpected expense, obstacle, delay, and detour cause a freakout? Do you anticipate disasters before you’re sure if they’re even going to happen? It’s a funny thing when we start to notice the correlation between stress and reaction time. If we’re always on edge, we react immediately. If our reaction time is in milliseconds, we’re always…

Stop Managing Your Stress

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, Ever noticed what happens when we manage our stress? It keeps coming back. The cycle never breaks. We get stressed, we blow off steam (with entertainment, pleasurable experiences, social gatherings, exercise, work, or food and substances), and repeat. This is because we never get to the core of stress. We only manage the symptoms. What we really want is…

Whenever Unfortunate Events Spring Up in Your Life

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, I had an interesting week. Imagine you’re out of the country for a few months. You rented a parking space at a storage facility to park your car. Then one day you get a call from the storage company that they are under new management and they can’t find your car. They tell you the name of a towing…

They Aren’t That Important

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, That thing you’re worried about, that problem you’re trying to solve, that goal you’re trying to reach, those hard challenges you’ve faced — they aren’t that important. I know it seems like life or death, but it’s really just life stuff. We are the ones who make everything so urgent and important-seeming. We create the pressure and stress. We…

Why Stress Isn’t Caused by Stressful Situations

Stress is not caused by stressful situations. Stress is caused by our expectations and desires for life to not be stressful. When we embrace that there will be stress, chaos, turmoil, and conflict in our lives, we can actually enjoy those experiences. When we try so hard to create and craft and mold this perfect, peaceful, calm life, which often ends up looking like isolation, solitude, and loneliness, because this…

Beware of Being Told Beware

These days, I am laughing a lot at news headlines that tell me I should be scared. I know I am supposed to get stressed, but I have become aware of their tricks and I just find it very funny.Here’s the backstory. I used to be addicted to the news. I mean I would read every article from every media outlet from every angle I could get my hands on.…

A Message from Your Future Self

I have a very important message to deliver from your future self. And since this is Stress Awareness Month, now seems like a good time to share. Here’s how I received the message.Several years back, I was spending a lot of time outside the country. So, I gave a trusted family member access to my bank account so he could deposit checks for me and that sort of thing. I…

Why Don’t Spiritual Teachers Get Drained by Everyone Else’s Pain?

Any spiritual teacher or healer is going to encounter immense sadness, anger, trauma, and stress, because that’s who gets drawn to this path. And it’s absolutely vital to be able to hold space for those emotions without absorbing them.The same way I dealt with my own pain is how I help others transmute theirs. Because if I take on their stress, I become useless. I lose my ability to serve.…

Can Bliss and Trauma Coexist in the Same Moment?

Q: Dear Todd, not every moment is pleasurable, in my opinion. When your car slides off the edge of an icy logging road and time slows down, you're going to feel instinctual, epigenetic fear coursing through your body. Maybe there's a yogi who experiences bliss during traumatic events, but I would guess that at that point, you're ready for Nirvana. And is that really Nirvana if you experience trauma, fear,…

How Can I Stop Self-Doubt from Causing Stress and Failure?

Q: Dear Todd, in my case, all my stress and chronic anxiety come from insecurities and a lack of self-worth. I'm selfish and unkind to people sometimes, but it's not because I want to be; it's because of how I feel about myself. Every moment of my life, I feel I'm not enough and am always afraid of failing. So I stress and stress, can't sleep, and end up failing.…