How to Remove Fear From Mind and Heart: Facing the Inner MonstersDon’t be afraid to sit alone with your thoughts and allow yourself to work through them. What you fear to be unbearable is not so scary. But we must face down the monsters so that we can conquer them. We must shine a light on the dark corners we wish were not there.Suppression, repression, and distraction are most people’s…
Cruel words can only hurt us if they are tinged with truth. Not with objective truth, but with our own personal truth. Objectively, no words would ever hurt us because we would be looking at our situation rationally, from all angles, and we’d be honest with ourselves about what we know and don’t know. If that inner voice in our head is self-critical, other people’s unkind words will really sting.…
Every single thing we experience outside of us is a projection of our own mind. If we lived in a tribe on an island with no connection to the modern world, we may think airplanes flying overhead were shiny birds. We can only experience the world based on our understanding, our mental state, and our emotional state.If we are hard on ourselves, we expect other people to be hard on…
What is the secret to peace and lasting joy? Why does true contentment in life feel so elusive? We all seek it, yet very few of us seem to hold onto it for long. We are bombarded with “solutions” for our discontent everywhere and all the time. Society tells us that this or that product will finally give us a feeling of wholeness. The next smartphone will be the last…
We live in a world that, at times, can seem to celebrate and reward the greediest among us. We live by our own code of values and morals, yet we see people who are unencumbered by ethics get ahead and who seemingly don’t have a care in the world.But the truth is, there is a greater joy than the fleeting pleasure of accumulation. There is a greater and lasting peace…
Even though, in the short term, telling someone off or badmouthing them may feel good, in the long run, it leads to nothing but misery. Blaming our problems on other people may feel satisfying for a moment, but it does not fix the problem. It does not lead to a solution. It does not help us in the long term. There will always be dirtbags, jerks, and cruel people in…
At the heart of every conflict is at least one or two outsized egos. These egos tear families apart, break up lovers, ruin friendships, and turn strangers into enemies. So how did we get here? Why do we have these egos? Are our egos protecting us or hurting ourselves and our relationships?Understanding the Link Between Ego and ForgivenessTo feel negativity towards someone else is no different from feeling negatively. It…
Do You Know Yourself? All loving relationships start with knowing. All problems stem from a lack of understanding. If we are to love ourselves, love others as ourselves, and eliminate internal and external conflict, we must know ourselves. The wisdom that arises from understanding who we truly are cannot be told to us. Just as we cannot develop a good relationship with another person by simply reading about relationships, we…
Does Everyone Deserve Happiness? Realizing You Are Worthy Right Now If you are breathing, you deserve happiness. Now, I don’t mean this as some political human right or some new-agey “soul” right. I also don’t mean that we deserve to always be laughing like fools. I don’t even mean that we deserve a perfect world or a world free from suffering, because that would not actually make us happy. If…
There’s no aging. There’s just this moment. There’s no future. There’s no past. There’s no “I was young, and now I’m old.” This is all comparison. This is all an illusion. This is all the symptom of a mind that can’t focus on reality and is always comparing this to the past, my life to someone else’s who’s better. Be grateful for this moment as it is. Don’t worry about…
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