How to Accept Things in Life That You Can’t Control

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterThe events in our life do not have a tight grip on us. We have a tight grip on the events in our life. There is no reason for us to relive our worst moments in our head, obsess over our undesired circumstances, or live in constant worry about the future.Here’s the secret to becoming free from our thoughts:Whatever makes you lose your mind,…

How to Overcome Loneliness When Living Alone

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterIf you feel like you were meant to live in a group of loving, supportive people, that’s not an accident. It is hardwired in our DNA. Human beings for 99% of human history survived by living in tribes, villages and close-knit communities. This is why we feel loneliness and crave companionship.Today, it has become much more difficult to connect and form deep and…

Spend Time in Nature to Reduce Stress of City Life

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterAs someone who lives in New York, I’ve met a lot of lifelong New Yorkers who have told me they don’t like nature, they don’t need it, and they’re doing just fine without it. Many of those same people also confided in me that they struggle with alcohol, depression, anxiety, impatience, sleep issues, dissatisfaction in life, loneliness and stress. This is not a…

How to Practice Gratitude When You Don’t Feel Grateful

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterGratitude is like a light switch. When it’s on, it’s easy to see all of the blessings in our lives. When it’s off, we have nothing and are lost in darkness.So how do we turn on that light switch of gratitude when we don’t like what’s going on in our lives? To flip that switch, we have to do three things.First, we have…

When Future Seems Dark, Uncertain And Scary

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterWhat can we do when the future looks scary, uncertain, or dark? The same thing we need to do when the future looks amazing and bright — discover the peace within us right now. How we feel now determines how we feel about the future, not the other way around.No matter what is troubling us — whether it’s loss, regret, stress or hopelessness —…

Why does Life Suck So Much? And What to Do?

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterI won’t lie. Sometimes, life sucks. When I went hiking in Nepal’s Himalayan Mountains, there were many very hard climbs, followed by very easy descents. This is the nature of any journey: there will be constant ups and downs. The more we understand this, the more we can enjoy the journey. Here’s the secret to facing good news and bad news without getting…

To Stop Intrusive Thoughts Permanently, You Must Do This

If we were to put all of our focus on one little ant, that ant would take up all of our attention and awareness. Similarly, even though there’s always so much happening within us and around us, if we put all of our focus on our thoughts, those thoughts will become the only things that exist to us. Similarly, when we become triggered because of traumatic events in our past, we…

When the Past Keeps Haunting You

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterUsually what happens when we have those unwanted, intrusive, misery-inducing thoughts, is that we are trying to suppress something that is clearly there and trying to express itself. Suppression and repression only feed negative thoughts more energy. Distraction and escape just keep them bubbling under the surface. Engaging with those thoughts feeds them too. So what the heck are we supposed to do?!The…

Do We Deserve Happiness?

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterIf you are breathing, you deserve happiness. Now, I don’t mean this as some political human right or some new-agey “soul” right. I also don’t mean that we deserve to always be laughing like fools. I don’t even mean that we deserve a perfect world or a world free from suffering, because that would not actually make us happy.If we remove the suffering…

Want to Experience Spiritual Oneness? Here’s the Secret

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter NewsletterWhat is Spiritual Oneness?When we explore closely the nature of the self, which is the object we can most closely observe, we see that we are nothing more than a mental concept. In truth, we are inextricably connected to our parents, and their parents, and their parents, and on and on forever.We’ll see that we are the trees, whose air we breathe. We…