Core Reflection"Suppression and repression only feed negative thoughts more energy. Distraction and escape just keep them bubbling under the surface. To fully heal, we have to look at our pain, explore it, and shine an even brighter light."Usually what happens when we have those unwanted, intrusive, misery-inducing thoughts, is that we are trying to suppress something that is clearly there and trying to express itself. Suppression and repression only feed…
Hope is a funny thing. We like it, we crave it, and we feel we need it. But when things don’t go as we hoped, we suffer. Getting our hopes up and to have them crushed, over and over again, can be agonizing.The Paradox of HopingSo, what are we to do?The problem with hope is that wanting it causes our feelings of hopelessness. When we focus on what we want,…
Stop Outsourcing Your HappinessWhen we expect others to make us feel better, we become the outsourcer of our own happiness. And while it can be very healing to have close people in our lives who we can share our problems with, sharing can all too easily turn into dumping. When we dump all our problems onto others with the expectation of them making us feel better, we are not valuing the…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, We’ve got a serious problem in the West. We treat life as something to get through. We act as though we just want to get it over with already! Nearly everything we do is seen as an inconvenience getting in the way of our peace and happiness. But when does the peace and happiness come? When we’re sleeping? When…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, For many people, especially parents, it’s a lot easier to give up personal cravings and desires than it is to give up our cravings and desires for the people we love. We can be very selfless for ourselves, but when it comes to our family and friends, our selfishness knows no bounds. We strongly crave for our loved ones…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, We are all like Frodo on a quest to destroy the ring of power. It’s often a perilous journey shrouded in darkness. At any point, we can turn back, run away, and go home to our comforts — ale, good food, and pipe-weed. But if we do that, eventually the darkness will spread and all that is good and green in…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, How silly is it that we love people by worrying about them? Is putting our worries onto our loved ones truly love? And is it possible to love without worrying? To truly love someone is to care for them, not get agitated and pass our stress onto them. Don’t worry, just love. That’s the greatest act we can do…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, Does every little inconvenience, unexpected expense, obstacle, delay, and detour cause a freakout? Do you anticipate disasters before you’re sure if they’re even going to happen? It’s a funny thing when we start to notice the correlation between stress and reaction time. If we’re always on edge, we react immediately. If our reaction time is in milliseconds, we’re always…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, Ever noticed what happens when we manage our stress? It keeps coming back. The cycle never breaks. We get stressed, we blow off steam (with entertainment, pleasurable experiences, social gatherings, exercise, work, or food and substances), and repeat. This is because we never get to the core of stress. We only manage the symptoms. What we really want is…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, This world is full of madness. Anger, cruelty, mindlessness, immaturity, jealousy, and hatred are in no short supply. This kind of insanity seems to be the most highly renewable resource there is. So, why are we going around reacting to other people’s insanity — defending ourselves, fighting back, and letting them drive us crazy? To fight with a crazy person…
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