There is something I’ve noticed throughout my life that has been consistent, and I’ve noticed it in every other person’s life I’ve had the chance to witness. I call it the Law of Best Possible Outcomes.

What I mean is that even though terrible things happen in all of our lives, some more than others, I’ve noticed that these often tragic events become turning points. They lead us to new places, to meet new people, to develop new strength and wisdom within us that completely transforms us.

These turning points put us in situations we never would have been in, situations that bring us incredible joy, purpose, love, and meaning in our lives.

This universe is governed by cause and effect. Every single thing that happens, happens because of everything else that has ever happened. Everything is connected. Everything that is good happened because of every single thing that was bad. And everything bad that happened, happened because of good things, because everything had to happen exactly the way it did. It could not have happened any other way. If we changed even one little thing, everything would be different.

Those tragedies that became turning points in my life are responsible for every single joyful moment on this new, diverted path.

There is truly more good in this world than bad. And those bad moments may linger for decades in our bodies and minds, but when we look back, we’ll see how they shaped us, how they made us who we are.

I know so many people who wouldn’t trade in their trauma for anything, because it made them who they are today. It’s hard to see this in the moment, especially during a tragic loss, but we can remember:

This is a magical universe, full of beauty, sunsets, rainbows, puppy dogs, babies, and flowers.  And we can be grateful for this strange experience where we all get to live an epic life, full of tragedy and drama, joy and laughter.

Each of us has this beautiful choice:
To see ourselves as the villain, the victim, or the hero.

We all have the ability to create a life for ourselves on this planet. We all have so many choices and options open to us. This world, with all its positives and negatives, is ours to shape.

And because of the Law of Best Possible Outcomes, we can trust the universe. We can relax, knowing that everything works out, that we’re all going to the same place, that we’re all just here to have as much presence and experience as we can. We’re here to share in the greatest qualities of this life: Love. Community. Support. Kindness. Beauty. And it’s all around us. We just have to open our eyes.