How Can You Not Be Attached to Family and Loved Ones?I know it seems strange at first, but the more we examine it, the more we will find that love without possessiveness or clinginess is a far greater and more powerful love. This is what true unconditional love looks like.When we love with attachment, we love with stress and anxiety too, constantly worrying, even if it’s imperceptible. This subconscious stress…
It’s important to understand that we are all people, and there is no “them versus me.” Bad people think they’re good people, and good people can think they’re bad people. It depends on what day you see someone. People are both. We’re human beings, and there is no me versus them. That separation is part of the creation of conflict, an illusion of duality that makes us feel superior and…
There is something I’ve noticed throughout my life that has been consistent, and I’ve noticed it in every other person’s life I’ve had the chance to witness. I call it the Law of Best Possible Outcomes. What I mean is that even though terrible things happen in all of our lives, some more than others, I’ve noticed that these often tragic events become turning points. They lead us to new…
When someone we love dies, where do they go? What is death?These are stories. They may be universal. We may all suffer immensely, but we are suffering a story. If your friend is moving away forever but going to live at Disney World, their favorite place on earth, you’re not really that sad. So it is our stories that we believe about death that make us suffer.In regard to something we…
The more obsessed, committed, and certain we become, the further we get from peace, love, and truth. In reality, there are no sides to be taken. There is no good side and bad side. There are no good people and bad people. These are just our minds striving to create mental models of the world. They are illusions. These mental models can be helpful, like when they tell us that…
Contentment and satisfaction are the opposite of suffering. When we are fully content, we feel fully fulfilled. And when we are in that state, there is no longing, no craving, no trying to find meaning in life or wondering about our purpose. There is only peace and clarity. And that is the state we're all trying to reach, that lasting happiness.A lot of people think that the answer to contentment…
If grief is love unexpressed, then express that love to yourself so the healing can take place. When we relinquish our attempt to control or suppress our grief and simply allow it to exist, we grant it the freedom to unfold naturally. Understanding impermanence on a deep level, and being aware of it rids the mind of any ability to experience loss, grief, sorrow, and detachment. Only the nonmaterial, empty…
Q: Dear Todd, we are in a time where every man, woman, and child on earth is being threatened by a group of people or a part of the consciousness that is malevolent. The part of the race that actually is not content with what they have. Where they have so so much so-called monetary wealth and power that they have manipulated our existence and in a way have bought…
Q: Dear Todd, I suffer daily because I work with animals - wildlife and domesticated. I see their suffering as a result of human beings every day. I don't know how to live my life without being in pain emotionally. How can I continue helping without suffering 24/7?Todd Answers: You are a warrior and a very kind-hearted empath. I know it can be so hard to be a warrior and…
Recently, my family was stuck with that most tragic of news that every family receives but no one ever expects. A few weeks ago, we got the call that one of the closest people in my life has been diagnosed with late-stage terminal cancer. So, how does someone who teaches about spirituality grieve? Do they grieve? What does loss look like to someone who teaches non-attachment and impermanence? In today's…
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