Is It Bad to Avoid People Who Are Mean And Hurtful?

Q: Dear Todd, is it bad to avoid people who are mean and hurtful rather than to spend time with them? TODD ANSWERS: I think of it the way I think of art. I deeply love all art because it comes from a place of wishing to make the world a more beautiful place. However, I can’t hang every piece of art in my house, so I have to be…

How to Stop Feeling Jaded And Bitter Over Time

Love is the glue that holds this universe together. It is the gravity that unites two star crossed lovers. And it is the only reason we exist — it brought our parents together, love nourished and protected us through infancy, and it is the only reason we haven’ blown ourselves up yet.Love is a feeling as innate as hunger. Instead of leading us to food, love guides us towards being more…

Can I Ever Heal From the Trauma of Having a Toxic Mother?

Q: Dear Todd, 38 long fucking years of severely crippling mental and emotional rape mainly at the hands of the toxic person that's supposed to be my so-called "mother"...that is STILL presently ongoing right now. How the fuck is this shit temporary?!?! When does it end?!?!TODD ANSWERS: My dear friend, I am so sorry that the person entrusted to protect you has let you down and continues to. That is…

Aren’t We Just Making Excuses For Mean People?

Q: Dear Todd, if mean people who hurt others have a "disconnect from infinite joy and peace within", then what about those people who have had horrible lives and yet don't hurt people or lie, cheat, etc…? Aren't we just giving these mean people a free pass? Making an excuse for them? TODD ANSWERS: I definitely don’t give them a pass, but I just don’t know what good comes from…