overthinking

How to Cope With Someone Ghosting You (Only Way That Works)

Dealing With Being GhostedWe’ve all been there. Someone texts you, you text back, and then, silence. Sometimes it takes a few hours, sometimes days, and sometimes never.Or, when dating, you might really like someone and you think, “This can really go somewhere,” but then they disappear. Sometimes you just keep waiting for that text which never arrives. You may cycle through every emotion: anger, confusion, sadness… You keep analyzing what…

Betrayal Trauma: How to Stop Overthinking & Let Go

When we get hurt and let down by others, the pain we feel lingers on long after the emotional event took place. These traumatic moments in our lives take up a disproportionate amount of our mental space. If we have too many of these moments in our lives, their mental real estate can consume us. It can take all our effort not to let those experiences define us and shape…

To Stop Intrusive Thoughts Permanently, You Must Do This

If we were to put all of our focus on one little ant, that ant would take up all of our attention and awareness. Similarly, even though there’s always so much happening within us and around us, if we put all of our focus on our thoughts, those thoughts will become the only things that exist to us. Similarly, when we become triggered because of traumatic events in our past, we…

The Best Way to Deal With Negative Self-Talk

When we grow up being punished and criticized, negative reinforcement becomes the only form of motivation we know. When we are brought up by tough teachers or parents who thought this was the best way, we can begin to actually fear and resist encouragement, praise and positive reinforcement. By growing up with negative reinforcement, we begin to subconsciously and mistakenly associate all of our accomplishments with stress, pressure and panic.…

My Negative Thoughts Are Necessary For My Growth

Q: Dear Todd, I'm personally struggling with negative thoughts of myself vs reality thoughts. Meaning...my thoughts might appear negative to someone listening in but they seem to be necessary as they are making me work harder and have resulted in attainable goals I've set for myself to remove the thoughts altogether. Any thoughts? TODD ANSWERS: It's not about silencing your thoughts. It's about using our minds effectively, efficiently, and in…

Is Meditation the Cure for Overthinking? And Where to Start?

Most of us have a voice in our head that constantly searches for something to obsess about. It scavenges and scavenges endlessly. There is just no seeming endpoint for this thought-chaser. No matter what happens, our mind will try to label, judge and analyze it forever and ever.  Why won't our minds just do what they're told?!This inner voice disrupts our inner peace and usually creates problems where none existed…