When There is No Hope Left, Do This

Hope is a funny thing. We like it, we crave it, and we feel we need it. But when things don’t go as we hoped, we suffer. Getting our hopes up and to have them crushed, over and over again, can be agonizing. So, what are we to do?

The problem with hope is that wanting it causes our feelings of hopelessness. When we focus on what we want, all we are really doing is thinking about what we don’t have. If we spend ten minutes wishing for hope, we’re really spending ten minutes thinking about our hopelessness. This makes us feel empty, incomplete, and like there is something wrong with us.

The truth is, we will all go through these feelings of hope and hopelessness. The key is to watch these feelings, accept that they’re there, and even do the craziest thing imaginable — accept hopelessness. Totally embrace it. Say to yourself, “Good, I am hopeless right now. Let’s explore this.”

Everything can be faced with courage and curiosity. The sooner we face it, the sooner we deal with it. The key is to shift our mindset from hope about some future outcome, to hope and how it feels right here in the present moment. By separating hope from outcomes, we can discover that the source of hope does not lie in the future or in some external circumstance. It comes from within. 

By embracing whatever is happening in the moment (this doesn’t mean not acting, it only means not building up internal stress and resistance), we can transform any negative emotion into peaceful understanding. The more we do this, the more we can trust in our ability to face any challenge that comes our way, and the more natural and effortless it will be to remain hopeful in the future. There is a recent podcast I recorded on how to handle emotional outburts, you might find that useful as well.

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I passed a rock with a beautiful message written on it while on a walking trail at the Thai Buddhist monastery where I was living at that time. Being a million miles from home and a billion miles from my old life in New York City, I didn’t expect this message to resonate with me so much. But it struck me in my heart like a lightning bolt.

The message was, “I have arrived, I am home.” This message was not referring to the monastery. It refers to a feeling we can carry with us in each and every step. What is home? It’s the place where we (hopefully) feel safe and at peace. What is arriving? It is the setting down of our baggage and taking a rest. Or in spiritual terms, putting down the mental baggage and giving our brain a rest.

So, how can we feel this peace in every step? It’s as simple as noticing your breath – the giver of life. If you can breathe, then you are alive in this moment. Everything else is just mental noise.

We cannot ignore this mental noise, nor can we forcefully stop it. That would be like using the mind to defeat the mind. But we can work with the mind. All of this mental noise is like waves on the surface of the ocean. We can’t stop waves from coming ashore. And if we ignore them, they’ll still be there. But, the more we become aware of the deep peace and stillness underneath the surface, the more the waves on top don’t seem so big. This peace always exists under the surface and we can be in touch with it in every step we take. To better connect with that peace, here’s an easy spiritual practice you can do to calm your mind. 

If you’re ever feeling depressed or overwhelmed, just remember the mantra, “I have arrived, I am home,” and allow your mind to go home and find refuge. This profound truth is something even young children can recognize. More on how to rediscover that hope and love for life in this video.



PS – When the boss isn’t pleased with your work, or maybe a coworker is trying to get on your nerves, what can be done in situations like these to maintain our inner peace? In this article, I share 5 ways we can use mindfulness to manage our emotions.

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It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday. It doesn’t matter what will happen tomorrow. We are not our mistakes, nor are we our successes. We are this one, eternal, priceless moment. The more we take care of this moment with mindful awareness, the more we tend to it with care and love, the more our lives can blossom.