Hello my friend,

So, continuing from last week’s newsletter…

How do we communicate to our subconscious mind that our defense mechanisms are useless, counterproductive, and harmful?

The subconscious mind doesn’t blindly believe in our words. It’s been lied to before. It only trusts what it sees, experiences, and what is repeated. 

Here are the 4 ways to open up a direct line of communication to our subconscious:

• Visualization

See your past episodes of panic, fear, and anger clearly. Now that you have some peaceful distance between you and the event, see the truth of the situation. See how it didn’t protect you but ruined the situation, ruined your day, and ruined your capacity to respond most effectively. Also, visualize how you would have responded with the clarity and calm that distance has provided you. Visualize how you wish to respond to triggering situations in the future.

• Repetition

Repeat the visualization regularly. But also, remind yourself like a mantra that there’s never a reason to panic, worry, stress, or get angry. Do this until that is the first thought that pops into your head when something triggering occurs.

• Practice

Instead of avoiding difficult emotions when they arise, observe them. Instead of running away, sit with them. Instead of distraction, focus on them. This tells the subconscious mind that there is nothing to fear about painful emotions. We don’t need to react to anger with anger. We don’t need to panic if there is ever a moment of panic. When we stuff these feelings down, we communicate to our subconscious mind that they are more powerful than we are. When we allow them, we teach our subconscious mind that we can stay calm no matter what happens.

• Meditation

In meditation, especially first thing in the morning and last thing at night, we have a bigger window into our subconscious mind because we are still a little in sleep mode and a little in awake mode. The doorway is open. Here we can meditate with the intention to not negatively react to any of the stresses in our day. We can practice observing negative or worrisome thoughts without reacting to them, observing pain or discomfort without fear, and creating a habit of staying present and focused no matter what thoughts pop into our head.

In this way, we can remember deep down to our core that negative reactions don’t serve us, that they are not our highest self speaking through us, and that they are a conditioned belief that pretends it’s only there to help us, but in reality it is using fear to control us.

If you enjoy short, quiet reflections, I’ve been sharing more of those on TikTok recently.

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Much love,
Todd

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