How Do You Explain Happiness to Someone Who Has Lost Job?

Q: Dear Todd, how do I explain happiness to someone who lost his job and was then evicted for not paying the rent? On top of it all, has a serious illness in his ankles. I am so overwhelmed with his pain and trying to help him as much as I can. TODD ANSWERS: I really understand. Often it’s harder to see someone else’s suffering than it is to go…

How to Deal With Uncertainty About the Future in Life

None of us are promised tomorrow, we are only promised this moment. That can be scary, but it also makes this moment more beautiful, more precious, and more special. And while tomorrow’s uncertainty can be scary, the fact that this infinitely wondrous world is still spinning in all its complexity, can give us some peace of mind.Living in this mysterious universe isn’t always easy, but it is always perfectly in…

How is Bird Watching Different From a Guided Meditation?

Q: Dear Todd, I am sitting in front of my window watching the birds at my bird feeders. I was wondering what your thoughts are about this morning activity which I do every morning over coffee. How different is this compared to a structured guided meditation? I think they’re both very similar in that they keep you in the present. It’s a very calming thing for me. Yes, my mind…

How to Let Go of Perfectionism in Work to Perform Better

Executives, creatives, and high achievers all frequently suffer from the self-imposed stress of perfectionism. Striving for perfection is one thing, but when not reaching the impossible ideal of perfection causes stress and anxiety, then it no longer serves our highest interest or our best work. Luckily, the curse of perfectionism in high performance individuals can be overcome.What is the Curse of Perfectionism in High Performance Individuals?Oftentimes, the people who are…

Path to Peace Stop Thinking You Are Unloveable and Don’t Deserve Happiness

Is it possible to show love and forgiveness to those who have committed the most hateful and unforgivable sins? We've seen it time and time again, when the pope washes the feet of criminals. When victims forgive their perpetrators. And when brutal war gives way to peace. If all of these people deserve a chance at happiness, surely we do too. In my latest podcast, I talk about the real…

How to Stop Tying Your Self-Worth to Your Achievements

Someone recently asked me, "I achieved so much in my life. How not to get attached to that? I am nothing without my accomplishments."Achievements are one of the most common ways our ego gets inflated. I call it: falling for the success trap. How could the most advanced biological life form in the universe ever feel like "nothing," with or without accomplishments? How could someone living on a planet with…

Is everyone else’s “good news” starting to crush you?

Isn’t life a funny thing? We’re all striving, working hard in business and on ourselves. We’re all on a journey to succeed and grow. And yet, so many of us are ashamed of where we are right now on our journey. We’re jealous of other people who insecurely show off. We’re all growing, and yet we’re all embarrassed about it.The fact is, wherever we are on our path in life,…

I’ve Found the Secret of This Life

For the better part of nine years, I lived in monasteries, ashrams, tribes and forests. I even spent months in silent meditation retreats. During all this time, I was trying to figure out who had the best methods and teachings. Some retreats were very strict, where we’d meditate in tiny prison-like cells for 14 hours a day. 3am wakeup times, total silence, and nothing but meditating and eating two meals.…

You Will Never Be Disappointed Again

A few years ago I moved to a new neighborhood in New York. I didn’t know anyone in the area, but I was excited to explore and make new friends. One day on a walk, I ran into a dear old friend who I used to be very close with and found out he was practically my next door neighbor! We made plans to have dinner later that week and…

Is Eliminating Stress From Your Life Possible?

Q: Dear Todd, how can we eliminate stress when it feels like too high of a bar for us to achieve?TODD ANSWERS: Just like how our emotions can be dictated by chemicals in our brain, anxiety may also still arise. However, I think really the goal of mindfulness is to be aware of these changes in our body and moods, to be aware of our thoughts/worries/anxieties.Once we are aware of…