Q: I need to be accompanied by friends all the time. I am so desperate and needy and unhappy. Help!Human beings are social. We're social creatures; we thrive with close connections. And it is because we needed each other to survive. So, we are naturally drawn to those close bonds that make us feel safe. Sometimes, when we have felt unsafe, we may use friends and pets and other devices…
Why do bad things happen to good people? Why do good things happen to bad people? And more importantly, why can we have everything in life and still feel empty inside? Is karma why some people seem to have all the luck? Is there cosmic justice in the afterlife? Some kind of Heaven or Hell? Is life totally random? Or is there some other explanation? In today's podcast, I explore…
Changing our mindset changes our reality because our reality is created by our perception. The way we see the world, the way we see our life unfolding, determines how we feel about our lives and shapes how we think about the situations happening around us, those we often call “happening to me.”If we are peaceful, life appears peaceful to us because we stay at peace in our mind. We don't…
Life only gets out of control when the doing is out of balance with the being. Therefore, when we are constantly doing, constantly receiving a bombardment of information and messages from society, from advertising to social media to the friends and family we are surrounded with, we are always being bombarded with trillions of informational data points that the brain processes and uses to create a model of the universe around…
We can move forward from any mistakes. We can be freed from all regrets. And we can gain from both wisdom and courage. None of us are slaves to our past. The fact is, notions of regret and mistake live only in the mind. We did not choose our circumstances or our brains. These self-imposed prisons are merely illusions we carry with us. So many of us spend so much…
Does every human being have Buddha nature and Hitler potential within them? Are we destined to exist within one of these extremes? Are we forced to live according to our programming — genetic, cultural and familial — or are we capable of rewriting our future? Do we all truly have the potential to achieve Buddhahood, Christ consciousness, and Krishna consciousness. And if so, how? The more we understand what makes a person…
Relationships are both the greatest sources of happiness we can find in our lives, and the greatest sources of pain and suffering. Not only can relationships cause us tremendous heartache, but the lack or loss of them can be even more heart-wrenching. So what are we supposed to do? Live as hermits in solitude? Live as doormats to be taken advantage of? Live in constant conflict? Or is there a…
We all want our life to be all peaks all the time. We want maximum enjoyment, pleasure, satisfaction and achievement every moment of our waking lives. Even when we're asleep, we want the best dreams on the best mattress and sheets. We want to always be at the peak of the rollercoaster of life. We want to reach the peak of the mountain without doing the hard, grudging work to…
Why do we give great advice to others and yet we have a hard time following it ourselves? What is the root cause of our own self-sabotage? Why do we keep making the same mistakes over and over again? And what can we do to break the cycle? In this podcast, I talk about why we keep failing to make positive changes and I share a simple 3-step process for…
We are all addicts. Every single of one of us is addicted. And it's not to our phone, alcohol, food, work, substances, gambling, sex, shopping or whatever else you may think it is. Some of us are wild and out of control. And some of us are able to manage our addiction. But we all struggle, we exhaust ourselves putting forth tremendous effort to refrain, and in the end we…
If something here helped you feel less alone, would you help me keep it alive?
Even the smallest support matters.
Weekly Writings from the Desk of Todd Perelmuter
