Reader Question"Todd, it’s my own self-esteem that’s been struck once again to prolong this long battle of wondering, will I ever meet that person? Am I destined to be alone? Have I gotten too old? Will I make it through yet another bout? I’m broken right now but fighting."We all (well, most of us anyway) want a devoted partner, close friends, and a loving family. But trying to find the…
When the Toxic Person is Your KidThere is no secret recipe for raising perfect kids. There are countless influences in the world and not all of them are positive. A parent can not control everything a child hears, sees, and experiences.Sometimes, despite our best efforts, kids can fall into drugs, a bad crowd, disrespect, and a refusal to listen. Parents are not robots, and it’s normal to get frustrated and…
Stop Outsourcing Your HappinessWhen we expect others to make us feel better, we become the outsourcer of our own happiness. And while it can be very healing to have close people in our lives who we can share our problems with, sharing can all too easily turn into dumping. When we dump all our problems onto others with the expectation of them making us feel better, we are not valuing the…
There are a lot of articles, influencers, and people talking about the rise of people cutting off family members.And as the forgiveness, love, compassion guy, you may think I’m anti-cutting people off, which actually isn’t true. I have had to cut people off, and I know that a lot of people are struggling with it.It’s one of the hardest things in most people’s lives — this idea of wanting someone…
The more we accept others as they are, the more likely they are to change. How weird is that? Watching a loved one suffer is one of the hardest things that any one of us will ever go through. It is often so much harder than dealing with our own suffering because we love them. We can take care of ourselves, but we're watching someone who cannot do so, who…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, For many people, especially parents, it’s a lot easier to give up personal cravings and desires than it is to give up our cravings and desires for the people we love. We can be very selfless for ourselves, but when it comes to our family and friends, our selfishness knows no bounds. We strongly crave for our loved ones…
From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter Hello my friend, How silly is it that we love people by worrying about them? Is putting our worries onto our loved ones truly love? And is it possible to love without worrying? To truly love someone is to care for them, not get agitated and pass our stress onto them. Don’t worry, just love. That’s the greatest act we can do…
When it comes to raising children, there is no one right way and one wrong way. This isn’t about bulldozer parenting, helicopter parenting, or free-range parenting. This is about the energy we carry with us, energy that children pick up like sponges. Even when we are not screaming or panicking right in front of a child, they can sense what is happening beneath the surface. Our words and the way…
When someone we love dies, where do they go? What is death?These are stories. They may be universal. We may all suffer immensely, but we are suffering a story. If your friend is moving away forever but going to live at Disney World, their favorite place on earth, you’re not really that sad. So it is our stories that we believe about death that make us suffer.In regard to something we…
What do you do if your partner is spiritually at a different place than you are? Ultimately, this question comes down to two things. There are really two broad stages of spirituality and spiritual development. Of course, within each stage there are many levels, but we can loosely divide them into beginner and advanced, those new, inexperienced meditators and mindful practitioners, and those who have been on the path for…
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