Love & Dating

How to Cope With Someone Ghosting You (Only Way That Works)

  • Post last modified:July 3, 2024
  • Reading time:3 mins read

Dealing With Being GhostedWe’ve all been there. Someone texts you, you text back, and then, silence. Sometimes it takes a few hours, sometimes days, and sometimes never.Or, when dating, you might really like someone and you think, “This can really go somewhere,” but then they disappear. Sometimes you just keep waiting for that text which never arrives. You may cycle through every emotion: anger, confusion, sadness… You keep analyzing what…

Continue ReadingHow to Cope With Someone Ghosting You (Only Way That Works)

Grieving Alone: Finding Strength When Family and Friends Are Distant

  • Post last modified:July 17, 2024
  • Reading time:1 min read

Q: Dear Todd, my wife was the closest person to me and she died last year, and now I'm stuck on this hell rock of a planet. I'm not that close to a lot of my family. This woman I know who is a widow who I was getting close to, is now showing her true colors, and it's not in a good way. I'm really tired and waiting to…

Continue ReadingGrieving Alone: Finding Strength When Family and Friends Are Distant

Is Gay Shame or Religious Guilt Worth Sacrificing Your Love?

  • Post last modified:July 3, 2024
  • Reading time:5 mins read

Q: Dear Todd, my problem is: I am someone who saw and recognized my same-sex attraction from a young age. Over time, I surrendered to such behavior and came into contact with men. I was in a relationship with a wonderful man for several years. With whom I broke up some time ago, even though I had everything that every "gay" would want. The reason why I broke up is…

Continue ReadingIs Gay Shame or Religious Guilt Worth Sacrificing Your Love?

Can I Be My Own Role Model?

  • Post last modified:July 3, 2024
  • Reading time:1 min read

Spirituality is a word that means something different to just about everyone. Some people think spirituality is about being kind to others at the expense of ourself. They think it means being taken advantage of, letting governments and people do anything they want, being passive, inactive, and naive. Other people think spirituality is all about selfish interests, self-love, self-care, and selfishly feeling happy despite the many problems in the world.…

Continue ReadingCan I Be My Own Role Model?

How to Not Fear Rejection From a Girl

  • Post last modified:July 5, 2024
  • Reading time:2 mins read

Q: Dear Todd, fear of rejection, then not feeling good enough is what holds me back from talking to more women. I feel like I’d have way more joy in my life if I just went for it, but I know how much rejection happens plus I don’t want to force things, I like the universe to guide me to the right connections. What’s your take on this? Do you…

Continue ReadingHow to Not Fear Rejection From a Girl

Betrayal Trauma: How to Stop Overthinking & Let Go

  • Post last modified:July 3, 2024
  • Reading time:1 min read

When we get hurt and let down by others, the pain we feel lingers on long after the emotional event took place. These traumatic moments in our lives take up a disproportionate amount of our mental space. If we have too many of these moments in our lives, their mental real estate can consume us. It can take all our effort not to let those experiences define us and shape…

Continue ReadingBetrayal Trauma: How to Stop Overthinking & Let Go

Anxiety Issues Making It Hard to Date

  • Post last modified:August 2, 2024
  • Reading time:1 min read

There are a few things we can do to lower anxiety. One way is to boost our confidence. This is done through practice and self-trust, so one thing to do is to try to have a meaningful (roughly 30-second) conversation with everyone you encounter, in a way that goes just slightly deeper and more original than “How’s the weather?” Use your surroundings to connect. This all helps us get out…

Continue ReadingAnxiety Issues Making It Hard to Date

Need Someone to Care About Me

  • Post last modified:June 12, 2024
  • Reading time:4 mins read

Sometimes in our lives we can feel like there is nobody there to care about us. Other times, the people who are supposed to care about us are trying to take advantage of us. So what can we do when we just need a hug, when we need the love and support of the outside world, and when we find ourselves lost in loneliness. Here are two essential things that…

Continue ReadingNeed Someone to Care About Me

Have Resentment Towards Your Ex? ONLY 3 Solutions Exist

  • Post last modified:June 18, 2024
  • Reading time:1 min read

I understand how hard it can be when people don't treat us the way we would treat others. It is disappointing, disheartening, and discouraging. People are messy and relationships can be very complicated, but we enter into them because of the immense meaning and purpose they bring.To hold onto anger and resentment is to give up on people everywhere. It's a battlefield out there, but we only have 3 options.1)…

Continue ReadingHave Resentment Towards Your Ex? ONLY 3 Solutions Exist

Feeling of Inadequacy When Dating?

  • Post last modified:March 29, 2024
  • Reading time:1 min read

Don’t all the best humans have a feeling of inadequacy when going out on a date? Ain’t that a thing? The most thoughtful people are so often too introspective and self-critical. It’s easy to get fixated on insecurities, especially because of the ubiquitous media’s idealization of what the ‘perfect’ life looks like, but it’s important to remember you are absolutely perfect as you are.Whenever you are overthinking about yourself, try…

Continue ReadingFeeling of Inadequacy When Dating?