Q: Dear Todd, How Can I Get Over my Grudges?

Giving love and forgiveness to others is the greatest gift you can ever give to yourself.

When we love and forgive others, we do not lose anything. We in fact gain peace of mind, joyousness, and greater physical and mental health. The more joy and love within you, the more joy and love you put into the world and the more joy and love will come back to you.

This doesn’t mean you invite your tormentor over for dinner or put yourself in danger. You can love and forgive someone from a safe distance and without ever even seeing or talking to them. Hatred and grudges are things you carry with you. Loving and forgiving is simply letting go.