Need Someone to Care About Me

Sometimes in our lives we can feel like there is nobody there to care about us. Other times, the people who are supposed to care about us are trying to take advantage of us. So what can we do when we just need a hug, when we need the love and support of the outside world, and when we find ourselves lost in loneliness. Here are two essential things that…

Anxiety Issues Making It Hard to Date

There are a few things we can do to lower anxiety. One way is to boost our confidence. This is done through practice and self-trust, so one thing to do is to try to have a meaningful (roughly 30-second) conversation with everyone you encounter, in a way that goes just slightly deeper and more original than “How’s the weather?” Use your surroundings to connect. This all helps us get out…

Do We Need a Relationship or Partner to Complete Us?

If we overthink about it, life can be very confusing. There is so much information that we are bombarded with daily, from ads to movies, from social media to our in-person interactions. Within all of that information are subtle cues that tell us how life should be, what a perfect life looks like, and how you'll finally be happy if only (fill in the blank). But, all of that noise…

How to Deal With Lack of Affection in Your Life

From Path to Peace With Todd Perelmuter Newsletter We all need human touch and affection. (If you’re currently experiencing loneliness and a lack of physical touch, this video is for you.) It is as innate a drive as hunger and thirst. We love love, and so we seek it out, we crave it, and it is this force that has helped us work together to survive and thrive on this…

Getting Over a Breakup When the Reason Seems Confusing

Q: Dear Todd, I recently separated from a partner citing that being together was difficult for her mental health and her judgment of my own inner peace. She believed I had more to work on. Ending things over that made me question the validity of the oneness sadly because her depth into that study is significant.Maybe I am amidst processing and possibly misunderstanding it, but I feel it was the…

I Lost My Soulmate. How Do I Let Go of My Love?

Losing a soulmate can mean the loss of a partner due to death, divorce, or unrequited love. I will cover all three cases and discuss how to survive each one.Case 1) Lost My Soulmate: Grieving Over the Loss of a PartnerThere is no person we will ever be closer to than our spouse. We share beds, we share every secret, and they are the person we rely on for strength…

How Can I Trust Finding Love Again After Being Hurt So Bad?

Love isn’t always easy. Usually the journey to finding true love is filled with heartache, anger, sadness and depression. But also joy, comfort, companionship, laughter and fun. Unless you get so lucky as to marry your first date, there will be some heartbreak. Fortunately however, there are some ways to help you trust finding love again after being hurt.To quote Pat Benatar, love is a battlefield. Sometimes we get hurt.…

I Always Want People I Can’t Have. How Do I Deal With It?

Ah yes, the age old ritual of courtship. Feigning disinterest, playing it cool but charming, all to entice a potential. The beautiful mating dance of two humans seeking connection.Objectively and logically speaking, we have three options.Be alone.Change our standards.Or we can change ourselves.I believe it tends to be preferential to adhere to options two and three.Option two means that we make sure we’re not too closeminded. It means really considering…

How to Stay Calm & Peaceful During Dark Times

Q: Dear Todd, how to experience moments of bliss in what would otherwise be described as dark circumstances?TODD ANSWERS: By replacing negative thinking such as anger, greed, hatred and fear with the positive characteristics of love, compassion, generosity, gratitude and #kindness, we become happier and more peaceful. As we train the mind to focus rather than react unconsciously, we can create whatever reality we wish. Path to Peace with Todd…

How to Let Go of My Ex Who Has Moved On

Q: Dear Todd, I got separated from someone I truly liked and every other minute a good or bad memory of him comes up. It's been 4 months now. I didn't know what happened. It was a shock for me and then I had to guess and accept what might have happened, but I can't seem to stop thinking about him. All emotions, and thoughts arise from that incident and…